So last week, I come back from work and am all set to check my e mail and get on FB with my cuppa joe.And I see this post on FB about this lady, who had an accident on her way to work that morning, in Atlanta. I know her hubby well and have met him many- a- times this summer, preparing for the annual Festival Of India event,on August 15th. His wife: I didn't know her very well, but I always saw her here and there, and regularly at the annual Vibha 5K walk, where she was one of my very close competitors.
I was just stunned by this news. How could it be possible for someone to be there that morning and be gone on their way to work? In an instant, a loved one is gone! I think this whole thing touched my heart so deeply because of its eerie resemblance to my sister, Sucheta's death. She was also on her way to work, when she died in Calcutta, and the cops came and gave my brother in law this devastating news.I just can't get over it! I really wish I had been more close to this lady...how does one deal with it?I still can't get over the fact that my sister is gone. And my parents still mourn her death to this day, even though it has been 15 years since then.They say time is a big healer, is it really?
If you love someone, tell them NOW, before it is too late. I fought with my sister the last time I saw her before her death( for a darn Salwar Kameez!!) and the only redeeming factor is that I said sorry to her after I got back here.Always make up with your loved one before you leave them, and don't feel bashful to tell them how much you love them. Life can change instanteneously...I am praying that the family of this lady will keep her alive with all the lovely memories they have of her~~and to my sister, Sucheta, wherever you are, I wanna tell you I love you!
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Life is uncertain, but death is certain! Sorry to hear about your sister Sucheta.
Your post reminded me of Gabriel Garcia Marquez - Nobel peace prize winner for literature
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'Tomorrow is never guaranteed to anyone, young or old.
Today could be the last time to see your loved ones, which is why you mustn't wait; do it today, in case tomorrow never arrives. I am sure you will be sorry you wasted the opportunity today to give a smile, a hug, a kiss, and that you were too busy to grant them their last wish.
Keep your loved ones near you; tell them in their ears and to their faces how much you need them and love them. Love them and treat them well; take your time to tell them 'I am sorry';' forgive me',' please' 'thank you', and all those loving words you know'
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Sorry to hear about your sister Nivedita. It has been 31 years since I lost my Dad to cancer and the pain has still not dulled, so I too question the saying 'Time Heals'
BTW, I live in New Jersey
So have you guys seen the "The Sixth Sense" the Bruce Willis movie? If so last scene - the boy (who saw dead people) asks his mom, what did grandma (late) mean when she said "everyday"? The mom breaks down (superb acting there, as she shows the double emotion of realization that her son actually has ESP and remembering her own mom) and sobbingly mutters that she had asked her mom "Do I make you proud?".
Thanks Fai, Seetha and Omkar..love the words of Gabriel Marquez, so true!!!
Jaane waale wapas naheen aatey,
atee hain toe sirf unkee yaadein.
Nivedita, it will be very easy for us to say that we understand your pain, but the truth is that we cannot. We can only empathise with you and thank you for sharing your personal loss.
I also agree with the time factor. With passage of time when new sorrows come invariably old wounds open up and become fresh
Thank you,Arun...
heya Vim!!!!!
All of u from SVC/ Berhampur
Vim, you always were a sweet,loving,great guy.....
thoroughly unspoilt by money/looks...the normal things that spoil relationships.
It doesn't surprise me the least that u are still the very same vimal Parmar!!!!
Ye, we all get easily bogged down with (1)career (2)marriage (3)hubby (4)children (5).............
theres no end to the numerous excuses we trump up.
Thank u for this rejuvenation of moments nmemories.....
As Rayla's big sis and Hema's class 8,9,10 teacher, i cherfully join in to let the past surface again.
Olga david (Ray's n mine) our sis is a MKCG Medical College doc .She's so thrilled that such a thing as a blog is there where u guys n gals have been so openly expressing ur inner self AND without inhibitions!
It absolutely took me on a mighty high yesterday when I went thru yr posts.
Yea,yeah. It was ages ago .AND all those cobwebs have turned to steel!!!!!!
I might need a diamond cutter to clear t clutter of the past 30 years!
Last year my parents, Mr n Mrs David of the Gopalpur Lighthouse fame visited Bam! They were treated to this by Olly(Olga)who had her MKCG Alumni meet at Bhubaneshwar.My ma, Grace David was a teacher at SVC for donkeys years.She too was so happy to hear of this modern means of communication calld BLOG.CAN YU BELIEVE IT VIMAL , THIS IS THE FIRST TIME AM WRITING IN ONE? Sam , my very computer literate hubby guided me (!)
Ofcourse I got his usual comments,"Don't act as if u r so ignorant!!!!" OR , "Don't show ur ignorance"!!!!!
Whatever it is ,am so thankful to u Vim for this chance to get into the ole blanket of t past and dig up the wonderful,carefree,youthful days!
I was amazed at the memory of Enarkay.(so sorry enarkay,my memory is a lilbit more than normally wooozy.......I don'remember much....but the name Anu, woke me up!!!!She was a real good pal of mine.....u won't believe it she was my heroine in all the Shakespearean plays that we enacted .Both in Women's college and in Khallikote college)But for NRK to remember NOBODYS CHILD, was a bit too much!!!!! Am so J of thfantastic memory that u possess,NRK.
Another thing,NRK, Could u tell Anu that I sent messages to anyone who had t surname Nabhi asking if they knew her.In fact I got a reply from some very sweet girl calld Kayla that she was only 16 and that maybe Anu was a relative.
So Vimal,what else is news?How are ur parents?What about ur family?
My hubby Samuel n I have 2 sons Anudh (25) and Akash (19).We are in Muscat.Am a lecturer in a banking college here,teachng foundation English.Sam works in Omantel,a local telecom comp.
You also mentioned Shammim.We too look back and remember the fantastic human being that she was.She is very fondly remembered by all of us for her extreme kindheartedness and love for all fellow humans!!!!
This is a lot that I wrote.
What I want to add is that I had a gang of very loyal students who were more my friends than students!Hema would recall what n why!!!!!!
My love to all you wonderful gals n guys, and especially yu Vim who made it possible for us to drool over the past and look back without any whimsical notions that we are better or worse than the other.
Oh by the way, i never taught in Sambalpur.
All the best for this very funtabulous exercise.
Thelma/david/samuel
Very sorry to hear about your sister Nivedita... I can understand what you and your parents must be going through. Time heals in the sense that we slowly start accepting the situation.
You may probably not believe this but have you tried talking to your sister after she passed away? You may even try it now... It may be an imaginary conversation but the feeling is so real... Tell her all that you want to tell her... It brings in a lot of relief. Trust me. Try it out...
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